Philangelus versus Zero Tolerance

I’m a wiseacre. You knew that.

Kiddo#1 wasn’t sick enough to stay home from school, but had a tickle in his throat. He wanted to bring some cough drops.

I gave him a few in a baggie.

He said, “You need to send a note.”

This school has, in the past, refused to administer a Tylenol to him for a school-related injury. They’ve refused to let to take it himself. They’ve refused to let me send him to school with a prescription antibiotic.

And now he needs a note for cough drops? My sarcastic side came out, I’m afraid. I scrawled on a note-square of paper, “This is a cough drop. -Jane”

Kiddo#1 laughed his head off. I so much hoped they’d call me from the school, but they didn’t.


  1. karen =^.,.^=

    🙂 LOL i am so with you there. my son has asthma and it took an act of congress to get his inhaler approved. and cough drops require a note or they aren’t allowed with our school also. my daughter gets migraines and advil has to be approved and administered by the nurse when needed – whereas if she could just take it immediately (when her vision first starts disappearing) instead of having to leave class, find the nurse, explain the problem, etc. while symptons worsen, she might be able to head off (pun intended) the migraines and stay in school! oh well. i guess the days of chewing down entire packs of halls blue ice in history class are over.

  2. Ivy

    Excuse my while I go find my jaw. It hit the floor and I’m not sure where it rolled to.

    Why is it that perfectly reasonable policies have to swing to such unreasonable extremes? “Teachers should not tell students things like ‘you’ll never amount to anything, so don’t even bother’.” becomes “We can’t have winners and losers at a spelling bee.” “Schools shall be free off illegal drugs.” becomes “No cough drops allowed”. It starts out so very reasonable and fly to such bizarre ends.

    Karen, you might want to call your assemblyman and let him know that your school is endangering the welfare of your daughter. See if he can go to bat for you.

  3. AnotherFaceInTheCrowd

    …because as many a bad trait is a good one amplified to excess, so is many a bad policy. Worsened if the principle behind the policy is not fully understood and/or by a lack of agency which means that if someone disputes your judgment, you’ve lost your job. Better to be a stickler for the rules then — those bills still need paying.

  4. blueraindrop

    lol! love the note!

    daughter’s daycare is actually worse…. not only did they need a signature, they needed a time. i couldn’t just send cough drops, i had to say when to allow her to have one, as in an exact time on the clock. same for chapstick, etc… things that really should be as she needs them.

    though, we had the same policy at our high school, technically. and what it meant is that most of the girls kept meds hidden in their backpack or purse…. so if someone had a headache, instead of going to a teacher or nurse to get tylenol like in the old days, instead they accepted some random pills that a classmate said to be “good for headaches” on their word. frightening… and a good reason to keep a bag of occasionally needed things in my locker

  5. CricketB

    My brother used to get migraines so bad he would throw up. Aspirin given quickly enough helped a lot. Mom would come pick him up, but still,…

    When they gave her the rigmarole about “medicine at school, doctor’s note,…” she filled it out and the usual delays happened.

    A week later she tried again. She put under “symptoms”, in very clear letters, “If he does not get this when he says he needs it, he will throw up.”

    The school called immediately, begging for a bottle to have on hand.

    I’ve taken Gravol, throat meds and antacids to the school. Original box, labeled, with “he will ask if he needs one”. There’s a quick form, but that’s it. There’s a bit more if it’s prescription or something the kid might not remember. I think the allergies and Ritalin have brought in some sanity. If the kid will die, or the school was the one insisting he take it, they pretty much have to have something in place.


    As a camp leader two decades ago (I’m feeling old!), I remember all sorts of conflicting rules about medicines. Some parents would send an entire medicine chest, just in case! Another leader always added “can give my child Aspirin” to the health forms before having them signed.

    We were responsible to make the kid take the pills that came with her, but the kid had to open the (child-proof) bottle herself, and if she refused we couldn’t make her, even if it was a life-threatening condition.

    There’s some Latin term for “temporarily in place of parents,” which may have applied, especially for camps further out, but our rule was that if you aren’t a Registered Nurse, you stick to what the parent sent. If you’re lucky enough to have an RN on site, you pass the entire problem up to her (and most RNs aren’t trained as camp nurses, so have no more clue than we did what the legalities are).

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