Kiddo#4 update (and cute stuff as promised)

Kiddo#4 had his well-baby appointment today. Ready for this? At nine weeks, he weighs 15 pounds 13 ounces. He’s 24 inches long (as my Patient Husband says, it makes sense: he has two feet). His head circumference is in the 95th percentile. In fact, he’s way up or over the top of the chart all over. The doctor said, “He’s just a big kid.”

No, really?

Nothing huge to report other than his size. Happy baby rendered unhappy after his shots. Doctor said he does have reflux but we’re doing all the right things for it. So in order to make this not a wasted weblog entry, I’ll tell you a funny story.

Back when we had Kiddo#3, one day he lay on his back for kick-time on the living room floor, and I noticed a picture of Kiddo#2 at the same age.

I laid that beside Kiddo#3 and snapped a picture of him beside the picture.

Cute, huh? Well, being a wiseacre, guess what I took out of the photo album and who I took a picture of it beside?

Kiddo#1 is annoyed that we don’t have a picture of him in this cascade of pictures, but it wasn’t something that occurred to me to do when Kiddo#2 was small. I guess I could edit him in, but it wouldn’t really be the same.

Instead I’ll tell a story about him. When he was about 2 or 3, I used to do a lot of driving for an organization that brought the elderly to doctor appointments for free. Angeltown is terrific, but our public transportation system stinks, so this was a necessary service, and it was a way I could volunteer with a baby. The clients loved him.

As a result, Kiddo#1 got very used to doctor-office waiting rooms (very handy when we spent the day in ICU when my grandmother died). But more than that, he acquired a gender-bias.

I didn’t realize it until one day, a client asked him him if he’d like to become a doctor when he grew up. Kiddo#1 exclaimed, “No! Only women can be doctors!”

Color me stunned. Until I realized:
Pediatrician? Female.
Midwife? Female. (I was pregnant, so we saw a lot of her.)
Nurses at midwife office? Female.
Dentist? Male, but he never actually saw the dentist; the one he spent time with was the dental hygienist, who was (take a guess) female.

As I ran down the list, I realized the only medical professionals he’d seen were females, other than my PCP. I guess the token male doctor on the list, but I also didn’t visit him that often.

I explained as gently as I could to my son that even though he was a boy, he could be anything he wanted to be when he grew up. And if he wanted to be a doctor, that would be fine with me.

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  1. Jenni

    That’s so cute!

    The closest we came to that was a Christmas pick with me sitting in my brother’s lap and my sister in mine. 🙂 That was the same year we took all our presents and laid them end to end down the hall to see who had the longest line.

  2. philangelus

    HAH! Good thing none of you got skis that year! 🙂

    We have a picture of my Patient Husband holding K1 and K2, and it’s in a frame on a spindle so the back side has a picture of HIS father holding him and his kid sister. And they as children look a lot like our children. It’s awesome.

  3. CricketB

    We’ve got a set of Mom, me, and daughter, age 3 through 4, sitting on a foot stool, holding a doll and, believe it or not, smiling for the camera.

    We got a bunch of Husband’s kid photos, so we also have a pair of him and son, age 7. MIL was totally thrilled with the set.

    Love your son’s early gender biases!

  4. karen ^.,.^

    i love the pictures! glad the check-up went well.

    i have a picture of myself when i was a toddler wearing an orange and white dress that my mother made for me. i also have a matching picture of my daughter when she was a toddler wearing the same dress – looking very much like me. we’ll see if the tradition continues. 🙂

  5. philangelus

    I found the picture of Kiddo#2, so I added that in as well now.

    You know, all these pictures of kids through the generations would make a really cool gallery. I know I have some pictures of Kiddo#2 wearing my childhood clothing, and some of Kiddo#1 wearing some of my brother’s clothes.

  6. grinningcomb

    First off such cute kids I’m jealous. 🙂
    And the story about Kiddo#1 thinking only women can be drs was absolutely precious